A Nehiyaw child is ever growing in a changing world. Life is a natural growth process like a seed that begins life in the Earth and then returns back full circle to the Earth. Death is a new beginning of the next journey since our spirit never dies. Opikinawasowin occurs with ceremonies, customs, and traditions to cultivate observation skills in children (Makokis et al., 2020b). Children learn by experiencing everything their family is engaged in, including ceremonies and customs. With a variety of experiences, children learn about the world through diverse ways. Key techniques of teaching include gentleness, repetition, taking time to provide detailed instructions, and storytelling (Dorion, 2010). Makokis et al. (2020a) explain that in opikinawasowin, there is a duty to help each child connect with the four sacred elements of life (askiy (earth), yotin (air/wind), iskotew (fire), and nipiy (water)) through each of the seven stages of a child’s growth through adulthood.
Miyawâta – happy stage (infant-7)
Awâsis A child is a little being who shines; ᐋᐧᓭᓯᐤ wâsêsiw (it shines bright)
The Miyawâta stage begins before conception as the ancestral Grandmother’s help the spirit prepare for their human journey. The spirits have chosen the family and community where the child will experience love and their gifts will be honoured. When they are born their grandmother sings to welcome the child into the world. Other important ceremonies, including a spiritual naming ceremony, contributes to the child’s health, happiness, spiritual to human transition and development.
Kayiwati – fast stage (7-14)
The Kayiwati stage is when a child is considered to be more human than spirit and begins to walk, run, and discover the world around them. They become less attached to their caregivers and more independent. As a child experiences their first steps on Earth, they might have a walking Out Ceremony where the community comes to pledge their support of the child and the family.
Notes: kayawatisow – he is very active, capable
Ayahpatisi - wondering stage (age 15-21)
In the Ayahpatisi stage a child is curious and learning about how they are related to people and how to be respectful and listen. This is a key time of language development. As the child in this stage participates in the community and ceremony, they learn their role in it.
Notes: ayapatisiw – he cannot keep still or cannot stay in one place
Tâpwêwin – truth stage (age 10-?)
During the Tâpwêwin stage, boys and girls go through rites of passage and are no longer considered children. They are given responsibilities. When boys make their first kill to provide for the community, they are honoured with a feast and a ceremony. At this age they may have experienced a Vision Quest through a Fasting Ceremony or a Sundance Ceremony. They now have responsibilities to be a provider. A girl’s rite of passage occurs at their first moon-time. During this time, they are housed with female Elders who teach them about healthy relationships, boundaries, and the responsibility of keeping their bodies in a balanced stage. During this stage boys and girls are taught how to be respectful of and have healthy relationships with other people, animals, plants and the land.
Kiseyitamowin – decision-making stage (age 21-28)
The Kiseyitamowin stage is when a person recognizes their own individual gifts after learning from many people, experiences and teachings. This is when they decide how they are going to use their gifts to serve the community. Knowing one’s gifts is knowing one’s role.
Ayawâwasoing – planting stage (28-35)
This is when one moves into relationships, maybe have children, and learn that it is their responsibility to raise children in the ways they’ve “been taught with all the protocols, teachings, ceremonies, relationships and responsibilities” (Makokis et al., 2020a, p. 6). Culture, language and stories are important in this time, so they can be passed to future generations.
Kakehtawewin – wisdom stage (around age 49)
After gaining experience in all the stages, one’s role becomes sharing their experiences with others. Kisêyiniw is a caring, loving, gentle old man. Nôcikwesiw is an old woman who has filled her home with love and good experiences. At this stage, one is the storyteller to guide the next generation. When they pass, the becomes ancestors who prepare new spirits for their journey.>